My family have been told how many times I've had to deal with narcissistic, controlling idiots in my life. I doubt they listened to a single word I ever said. A woman targeted (gaslighted) my ex, effectively stealing a business we built together and in turn our relationship, we went to court and won but the damage was done, end of 20 year relationship.

A narcissistic father in law that spent every moment he could, damaging my relationship with my ex. One very memorable argument he created, a Christmas eve I got home from work (busiest month of the year for my business) my ex and his wife in tears, my fault, I work too hard. He'd no doubt spent weeks grinding them down about me.

There are more, I could write a book. The damage these evil people do is real. You choose who you let treat you badly BUT never expect the same of me, I've put up with too much for far too long. YOUR choices have consequences to everyone around you.

I'm not a victim of mental abuse, I'm a victim of caring for other victims of mental abusers.